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  Contents

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  Title Page

  Contents

  Copyright

  Dedication

  Author’s Note

  Photos

  Coming into the Language

  Transition Lessons

  Prince Charming

  The Least Restrictive Environment

  Words Left Unspoken

  A Recovery

  Falling Within the Banana

  Tower of Babel

  Salvaging

  Stupid English

  Number-One Home

  Train Go Sorry

  Whose Apple Pie?

  Moving the Boundaries

  Light after Dark

  Interpreting

  Long Goodbye

  Graduation

  Acknowledgments

  About the Author

  Connect with HMH

  Copyright © 1994 by Leah Hager Cohen

  All rights reserved

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  The Library of Congress has cataloged the print edition as follows:

  Cohen, Leah Hager.

  Train go sorry : inside a deaf world /

  Leah Hager Cohen.

  p. cm.

  ISBN 0-395-63625-6

  1. Lexington School for the Deaf. 2. Lexington School for the Deaf—Students. 3. Deaf—New York (N.Y.)—Means of communication. 4. Deaf—New York (N.Y.)—Social conditions. I. Title.

  HV2561.N72N35 1994 93-2291

  371.91'2'097471—dc20 CIP

  eISBN 978-0-547-52411-5

  v3.0219

  To

  Mary B. Romig,

  105 Albemarle Street,

  and her wooden box

  Author’s Note

  There exists no practical written system for American Sign Language. Throughout this book I have used italics to represent signed communication transposed into English. The transpositions are my own; I have done my best to make them faithful to the signer’s original meaning, emotion, and register. Italics appear every time sign language was part of the mode of communication, regardless of whether the signer used pure ASL, signs rendered in English word order and supported by spoken English, or anything in between.

  During most of the research for this book, I assumed the role of an observer, remaining outside the action. Occasionally I felt compelled to step in as an interpreter. The interpreters’ code of ethics prevents me from reporting any of the information I had access to in that role; for this reason, I refrained from interpreting as much as possible.

  “This Court for the Deaf’ Faye and Sam Cohen, Washington Baths, 1934

  Oscar reading to a group of students in our Lexington apartment in 1969. My sister, Reba, and I are in white dresses.

  Reba, my brother, Andy, and I on the steps outside Lexington, 1973

  Irini and Sofia Normatov, Lexington classes of 2001 and 1993

  James Taylor, Lexington class of 1992

  1

  Coming into the Language

  That our family’s home was a school for the deaf did not seem in any way extraordinary to Reba, Andy, and me. Lexington School for the Deaf was simply where we came from. Our apartment was on the third floor of the southern wing of the building, above the nursery school and adjacent to the boys’ dormitory. The walls and doors, incidental separations between our living space and the rest of the building, were routinely disregarded. Our father might be called away from the table in the middle of dinner; we children often played down the hall with kids from the dorm. It wasn’t until Reba, my older sister, proved at age six to be a sleepwalker—discovered one night riding the elevator in her pajamas—that our parents even thought to install a proper lock on the front door.

  We lived at the school, in Queens, New York, because our parents worked there. Our mother taught nursery school; our father was the director of child care. But their involvement extended far beyond their jobs. They put out The After-schooler, a newsletter about residential life. They hosted holiday parties, cranking our stereo so that vibrations thrummed through everyone’s rib cage. They built a snack bar in the basement for the high school kids, using giant electrical spools for tables. They invited people from all parts of the Lexington community to have dinner at our apartment, from student teachers to administrators, from alumni to people on the maintenance staff.

  They seemed intimate with the very marrow of the school, and tended it with infinite care. Our mother painted giant murals that hung on the first floor: reproductions of famous children’s book characters, altered slightly so that a hearing aid nestled in each one’s ear. And our father extinguished a fire in the basement one night, pulling on jeans in response to the alarms that simultaneously clanged and sent pulsing red beams along the corridors.

  Our parents knew every inch of Lexington, every passageway. In his rear pocket, our father carried a dense batch of keys. Yellow and snaggle-toothed in their neat leather holder, they pivoted forth to open any door. When he was summoned away from us—to hold a child who was out of control, or to interpret Miranda rights for police who were arresting a student, or to transport a blender from the kitchen so that the dorm kids could complete a cooking project—our mother would guide us on small adventures. She would take us to the pool for evening swims, afterward changing us into our sleepers in the locker room. She took us to the auditorium for movies, special screenings of subtitled prints that were shown in the days before closed captioning. She took us to watch the Lexington Blue Jays play softball out on the field, and when we got bored she taught us to weave crowns from the white clover that dotted the sidelines. On hot days she equipped us with paintbrushes and saucepans of water so that we could “paint" the patio that led to the playground. Once, on the Fourth of July, she led us up to the roof, where we ate green ice cream and watched fireworks flash around the dark grid of the neighborhood.

  Lexington was our red-brick castle, our seven-acre kingdom. My sister and brother and I pedaled our tricycles up and down the hallways, over the tan-and-cream bands of buffed linoleum. Later, on summer evenings, we learned to ride two-wheelers in the narrow strip of parking lot. Our books were stamped out from the school library; we picked up the mail from our slot amid the faculty boxes in the general office. Once we helped plant corn and tomatoes beyond the northern wall of the auditorium. We even ran the proverbial lemonade stand out in front of the school one hot July afternoon. We frequently ate dinner in the cafeteria: fruit cocktail, meat loaf, and peas; plastic trays; milk from a machine; and all around us the murmur and motions of our elders, the Lexington community.

  Everyone knew us. They knew us in our diapers and they knew us in our pajamas. They knew us running around the basketball court at halftime during the big deaf-school tournaments. They knew us making candles out of melted crayons with the dormitory students, or chewing Mary Janes and Bazookas while reading the comics in the lobby with the weekend watchman. Lexington held our extended family; it was a large, interconnected neighborhood full of surrogate uncles and aunts.

  During the seven years our family lived at the school, it had an annual enrollment of about four hundred students, from the infant center straight through high school. One hundred and fifty resided in the dorm. In the building’s northern wing, the centers for hearing and speech, mental health, and research served thousands more deaf people from the greater New York area every year. Deaf people from all five boroughs, New Jersey, Westchester, and Long Island converged on Lexington for special events—athletic tournaments, plays, homecomings, lectures, and talent s
hows, all held in the gym or the auditorium. My sister and brother and I were at home among them. From the time we could walk, we were navigating forests of grown-up legs, ducking in order not to obstruct signed conversation and pausing to endure having our cheeks pinched, our height exclaimed over.

  In our world, people were either deaf or hearing. We registered both with equal lack of concern: the designation was relevant but unremarkable. We were already accustomed to cultural differences, even within our own family—our father was Jewish, our mother Protestant; our paternal grandparents were deaf, the rest of us hearing; Andy (who was adopted) was black, the rest of us white. We didn’t actively learn so much as acquire the special behaviors and customs of communicating with deaf people.

  We knew always to look at someone deaf when we spoke. We knew not to exaggerate the movements of our mouths but to make sure we did speak clearly. We knew that we should use our voices, because a lot of people picked up some sound with their hearing aids and that helped them read lips. Our father got annoyed if we only mouthed the words. If we wanted someone’s attention, we knew that we should tap the person’s arm or stamp our foot to send vibrations, never poke or snap. If we didn’t understand someone’s speech, we knew that we should listen for our father’s voice, which would come from behind and above in easy translation, and without ever breaking eye contact we would respond, our lips automatically precise, our voices pitched at normal volume.

  If our father wasn’t there to translate, I would wrinkle the top of my nose in between my eyes, and then the person would automatically repeat what she was saying. If I still didn’t understand, and I was feeling very tired and was waiting to be taken upstairs and put to bed, I might smile and nod, guiltily faking it. When I got older and knew enough sign language, I might use some of that, and then the person would beam, bestowing on me such a look of cherishing gladness that I would feel my cheeks and neck go hot.

  Many nights I found myself, at the end of some late event, weaving groggily about the auditorium or gym, waiting for the crowd to disperse so that my father could lock the doors and take me upstairs to bed. Someone would flick the lights on and off, signaling, “Go home, please go home.” No one ever paid much attention. Finally the lights would go off altogether, making signed communication impossible, and people would genially drift out as far as the still-lighted lobby—only to resume conversation there. When at last everyone had been shooed from the building, there were always some who remained out in front, halfway down the steps, under the dim globe of a streetlight, anywhere that enough light remained to converse.

  I imagined friends lingering out there long after I had been tucked under the covers, vivid silhouettes communicating deep into the night. That the task of clearing the building after community events was so challenging never struck me as odd. Long goodbyes and deafness intertwine in my mind as far back as I can remember.

  My connection to Lexington extends even further back than my memories. It begins long before my birth.

  Around the turn of the century, my father’s father, Sam Cohen, arrived in this country from Russia. Because he was still a child, his parents were able to hide his deafness from authorities at Ellis Island, who could have sent him back across the ocean with a single chalk mark on his coat if they had detected any impairment. Sam went on to become a student at Lexington, then located in Manhattan, on the avenue for which it is named.

  My grandmother, Fannie, attended RS. 47, the city school for the deaf downtown, on Twenty-third Street. She and Sam met after graduation, on a boardwalk near Ocean Parkway where groups of young deaf people gathered during the summers. Fannie, too, was part of a wave of Eastern European immigrants, but when she and Sam married, the culture that infused their home was not so much Russian or Romanian as it was deaf.

  After a social evening—a dinner party or a few hands of cassino with another couple—they would stand at the door of their basement apartment in the Bronx for over an hour, saying goodbye. The other couple might live only blocks away. They might be going to see each other the very next day. It didn’t matter. Always they would linger.

  This reluctance to part, to sever the connection and enter the vacant night—this is an integral part of deaf culture. After a day spent surrounded by the hearing, at work, on the subway, at the market, those evening hours with other deaf people were never enough. The last prolonged moments by the door grew out of a hunger for connection. Sam and Fannie, in their lifetime, had few alternatives to satisfy that hunger.

  The teletypewriter (TTY), which enables deaf people to communicate through phone lines, did not become widely used until the late 1960s. A large clattery machine indigenous to newsrooms, it transmits typed messages instantaneously to someone who is also operating a TTY. Originally, the number of households that owned TTYs was quite modest, and virtually no public agencies—schools, hospitals, libraries, police stations—owned one. Certain localities offered a service called Deaf Contact for use in emergencies. A deaf person would call on a TTY; a Deaf Contact operator, acting as intermediary, would then telephone the hearing party and deliver the message by voice. Both its hours of operation and the purposes for which Deaf Contact could be used were limited. Very often, deaf people resorted to beseeching their hearing neighbors to place calls for them, or they simply ventured out on foot.

  Today the old machine has been streamlined into the compact, portable telecommunication device for the deaf, which, in addition to being cheaper and more convenient, increases deaf people’s autonomy. Today Deaf Contact has evolved into twenty-four-hour, toll-free relay services across the nation that facilitate simultaneous voice-TTY conversations. Today we have closed-captioned television, on-line computer information programs, and legislation mandating increased interpreter services. But even all of these modern developments have done little to quench deaf people’s thirst for time spent physically together. When so much of the world is indecipherable, so much information inaccessible, the act of congregating with other deaf people and exchanging information in a shared language takes on a kind of vital warmth.

  My first home was steeped in this warmth. I took it for granted, responded to it unconsciously, just as I took for granted that Lexington was in some way special, set apart from what lay beyond. Something survived intact within these walls, something perfectly removed yet vibrant in itself.

  It seems to me that during my childhood, the fact that I was hearing was kindly overlooked. This may have been due to my lineage; people’s feelings for my grandparents may have prompted a special graciousness toward me. It may have been simply my age; children are usually granted surrogate membership in the larger community in which they are raised. But I staked a further claim, one purely my own: after I was born, I was taken straight from the hospital to Lexington School for the Deaf. As far as I was concerned, in that motion alone my birthright was sealed.

  What interests me now is not whether this fantasy was legitimate but why it mattered at all—why I longed so deeply for a place among deaf people. For if by blood I am bound to Lexington, by involuntary desire I am bound to the deaf community.

  For the first century of its existence, Lexington was housed in a great gabled building across the East River, on Lexington Avenue and Sixty-eighth Street in Manhattan. It moved into its new lodgings in Jackson Heights in 1968, three months after I was born. I remember learning this fact when I was very small, and it struck me as further evidence of a special tie. With this information, I fully anthropomorphized the school; we were nearly twins. She was larger than I, but we were the same age. We turned five together, and six; I remember patting her walls in recognition of these shared anniversaries.

  Just before Astoria Boulevard and the Grand Central Parkway mark the end of Jackson Heights, Lexington claims one full block in the midst of the neighborhood’s varied ethnic landscape. Up by the Roosevelt Avenue subway, where the elevated Number Seven rattles overhead, women in jeans and sneakers shop for Asian herbs, videos from Bombay, tropical fruit
in terraced displays. Within a block, business gives way to residences—grand old Tudor houses and garden apartments whose Anglophilic names seem incongruous with their current occupants, who have settled here from Korea, Colombia, Russia, Argentina, Venezuela, and Uruguay. The immigrants’ voices rise from stoops and drift through open windows, punctuated by bursts of flat American slang from their children, playing stickball in the streets.

  On the other side of Northern Boulevard, the ethnic mixture changes sharply. Old Italian, Irish, and German families live here, in brick rowhouses that squat for blocks like fat red hens, each indistinguishable from the others except for an occasional pink metal awning hung over a front door, a cement lawn cherub tucked in a nave of sculpted hedges in a yard, or worn AstroTurf lining an exposed porch floor. Always a woman in a housedress is pruning a rosebush, a man in an undershirt is hosing down his drive. From every tidy plot of land radiates a dual sense of patriotism and homogeneity.

  At the northernmost edge of this neighborhood stands Lexington, a cultural community in its own right and a visible presence in the area. Storekeepers recognize Lexington students by the hearing aids behind their ears; residents can pick them out a block away as they sign to each other while they walk. In spite of their quarter-century in Jackson Heights, the deaf remain as culturally distinct as any newly arrived immigrant population. During the late 1960s, Lexington was in the early stages of changing its stance on sign language. American Sign Language (ASL) dates back to 1817, when Thomas Gallaudet, a hearing preacher from the United States, asked Laurent Clerc, a deaf teacher from France, to help him start the first public school for the deaf in this country, the American School for the Deaf in Hartford, Connecticut. Clerc introduced manual education to this country, teaching the students his native French Sign Language, which became the ancestor of contemporary ASL.